I don’t live up to my online self

In fact, I come up very short. Online me is a fearless, straight-shooting, awesome(ish) communicator. While nothing about that is an actual lie, it’s not always true. Just like everyone else, I illustrate certain points and let people see part but not all of me.

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” – T. Roosevelt

PSST: Stop guessing when I publish new posts and get articles like this in your inbox every Sunday.

Ash Ambirge wrote a great post (obviously I’m stealing her idea by writing this) on how filters are filtering out reality. Just like how we can apply an actual filter on an Instagram photo, our online lives tend to be filters of our best selves. So to the outside world, we look like well rounded, well-lit people who are always enjoying our lives.

Even someone like James Altucher who appears to have zero filters around making himself seem like an asshole just adds to the fact how human and likeable he is in his apparent unlikeability. Even in my own brutally honest way, I can’t compare to how he does it.

This makes it tough in our own minds because comparison obviously happens. I’m not nearly as awesome as the (ridiculously attractive) people I follow on twitter who are always doing epic shit. We let a fantasy we have of reality be what we compare our actual reality to and we end up feeling bad when we come up short.

But even if the factors for comparison were identical, and all points were considered, what purpose would the comparison serve?

It is worth being aware of this regardless though, that who we portray ourselves in the online world tends to be putting our best foot forward. There’s nothing wrong with sharing only some things if they’re honest, but next time you think you don’t measure up to anyone else, consider that they’re doing the same by putting their best foot, intentions, ideas, life, etc… forward too.

They may be sitting alone, watching bad action movies and eating coconut ice cream too. Not that there’s anything wrong with that…